“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abe Lincoln
Sad, hard, scary, dumb and just plain lousy things will happen to each of us throughout our lives. We will get sick, and have our hearts broken, people close to use will pass away. We will have our failures and make big mistakes. We will be lied to. People we love will betray us. We will have all sorts of worries. We will face internal battles. Our feelings will be hurt. We will struggle to live as our true selves. Life will be difficult. It will terrify all of us. There will be times in all of our lives where we feel so broken and hurt and scared. There will be days when all we do is cry. We will feel lonely and numb and fearful.
We will struggle to find meaning and purpose in ourselves. We will feel inadequate and small and stupid. We will feel guilt over things that cannot be changed. We will suffer. It’s all inevitable. None of our journeys will be easy.
BUT, life will amaze us. It will fill us with SO much joy. There will be hugs and kisses. And parties! Babies. Flowers. Sunny days. Trips to the beach. Precious moments with family. Dessert. Puppies. Beautiful music. We will all have great accomplishments. We will smile. We’ll hear great jokes and laugh so hard our stomachs hurt. There will be days our hearts feel SO full that our only thoughts are happiness. We will shine with love and warmth. There will be happy tears and smiles.
So, how do we balance out the bad and the good? How do we decide what our lives will be? It’s all about perspective. There are hard times, scary times, times of uncertainty and difficult times. But never, ever a bad life. Life is ultimately what we want it to be. It’s what we dream about. It’s what we work for. Most of all, it’s how we think. It’s what we give thought to. It’s what we make up our minds to be.
It doesn’t matter who we are or what our backgrounds are. It doesn’t matter if we are rich, poor, beautiful, ugly, short, tall or any other factor that we all give too much thought to. None of that matters. We have all been tricked. We continue tricking ourselves into thinking that all that stuff is important but it’s simply not.
All humans have the capacity for radical gratitude and a warm and zealous love for life. So often we choose negativity, pessimism, envy and greed. We choose to be unhappy because it is most convenient and familiar. We are not satisfied with the beautiful, perfectly imperfect lives we have been gifted.
I get it. Life can be very scary and difficult. Some people have horrible things happen to them. But, all people have great things happen to them. There is always something to be happy about.
We are here. We are alive. We are human. Let’s rejoice in this. LIFE IS REALLY COOL. Smile and be grateful for what you have. It’s all about perspective.